- S and M is kinky sex. S and M stands for sado masochism
- This can involve tying up, whips or latex clothing
- Clients usually pay extra for S and M
- Do you have an STI? If you do, you can often still participate in S and M
Tying up
Sometimes, a client would like to be tied up during sex. This is the procedure:
- Make sure you clearly agree on what you will be doing. What does your client like? What don’t they like? And what do you want to do and not want to do?
- Tie your client to the bed or on a chair
- Tease the client. For example, always get close to, but don’t touch, the penis or vagina. Or keep your nipple just out of reach of the mouth
- Play with the client’s penis or vagina. Use your hands. Or your mouth
- While you’re busy, ask the client whether they are still enjoying themselves. Maybe your client wants something different. Like being untied, for example. Or other touching
A client may also ask if they can tie you up. Only do that if you trust the client completely. You can remove most handcuffs from the sex shop if they are on your wrists. Practice that before letting the client handcuff you.
How can you tie someone up safely?
Do you want to tie up your client? This is how to do it safely:
- Use handcuffs from the sex shop. Those are the safest and easiest
- Use a scarf. Don’t tie up the client too tightly so the blood can still circulate through the hands and feet
- Use a tie Don’t tie up the client too tightly so the blood can still circulate through the hands and feet
- Use rope. Only use rope if you are sure you know how to do it
- Is the client tied up? Check every now and then to make sure the hands aren’t getting cold
- Are the client’s hands cold? If so, untie the client
- Ask the client every now and then whether they can still properly feel their hands. Can’t they feel their hands? Or have the hands gone to sleep? If so, untie the client
- Never put rope or anything else around the client’s neck
Playing involving pain
A lot of people find it exciting and nice to feel pain during sex. For example:
- Spanking
- Clothes pin or nipple clamp on the nipples
- Biting the neck
- Pulling hair
- Pinching
You can use all sorts of toys. This could be whips, nipple clamps and other toys you can buy in the sex shop.
Does the client want to inflict pain on you? Only do that with a client you trust completely and if you feel comfortable. Clearly tell the client what you want and don’t want.
How can you play with pain safely?
Do you want to play with pain? This is how you do that safely:
- Make sure you clearly agree on what you will be doing. Talk about what you like and what you don’t want
- Agree on a safe word. ‘Red’, for example. Has one of you said the safe word? Then stop playing with pain immediately
- Good places to hit are the buttocks, upper legs and upper arms
- Never hit joints, the neck and throat or spine.
- Always start gently and increase until the person who is being hurt says it’s hard enough
- Do you want to avoid bruises? If so, clearly tell your client that they may not hit, pinch or bit you too hard
- Do you have an STI? Or other complaints on your vagina or penis? If you do, you can still play with pain. You can continue to work and earn money.
In that case, it is additionally important that you do it safely. Play involving pain can be done without touching the penis or vagina.
Are you going to touch genitals? Read more about STIs
Role-play
Some clients like to role-play. You play the boss and the client is submissive. Or vice versa.
The one playing the boss (master/mistress) gives orders to the submissive person (slave). You can do a lot with a submissive client. For example:
- Make them get you a drink
- Make them dance for you
- Make them kneel in front of you
- Make them give you a massage
- Make them kiss your feet
- Make them eat your pussy or give you a blow job
- Make them tell you how beautiful you are or how great you are
- Touch the slave however you want
A client may also ask if you want to be the slave. That is nicest with clients you trust completely. Clearly agree on what you want and don’t want.
Sometimes, a client will ask you to wear special clothing. Leather or latex clothing, for example. That can help you get into your role.
How can you role-play safely?
Do you want to do role-play? This is how you do that safely:
- Make sure you clearly agree on what you will be doing. Talk about what you like and what you don’t want
- Agree on a safe word. ‘Red’, for example. Has one of you said the safe word? Then the role-playing stops
Do you have an STI? Or other complaints on your vagina or penis? If you do, you can still role-play. You can continue to work and earn money.
In that case, it is additionally important that you do it safely. Role-play can be done without the penis or vagina being touched.
Are you going to touch genitals? Read more about STIs
